This piece by Gary Kabat continues to inspire me to do my best to come from my highest good, for myself and others. I hope it will inspire you too.
People of wisdom, our mentors and guides, our elders and spirit, and those of experience tell us: “There is a time to speak and a time to be silent, a time to act and a time to refrain from acting.”
As someone on “the path”, we learn to tune in and sense when the time is right and when it is not. Usually, there are signs that tell us.
If we feel agitated or see that another is agitated, it’s probably not the right time. If it feels hurried or arbitrary, forced or pressured, it is probably not the right time.
When we ask a transformational question, “Can I do this peacefully?”, and the answer is “yes” then it is probably the right time. Our highest good, and the highest good of others can only be served when we speak and act at the right time and place.
Remember, doing what we want to do is not enough. We must be able to do it in a peaceful way. Otherwise it is not worth doing.
What we do and how we do it must be connected. Acting and refraining from acting must have equal weight in our practice, on our path.
There may be instances in our life where we take action meant to honor ourselves, but the action may come across as harsh or insensitive; the idea may be good but it’s communicated in a challenging way to others.
This can be avoided by asking the transformational question: “Can I do this without putting stress on myself and others?” Or put another way: “Is this in my highest good and the highest good of others?”
If it’s not in our highest good, do not do it.
If it’s not in the highest good for others, do not do it.
Wait until we can answer yes to both parts of the question.
We can see that this practice requires patience; that our life may be a touch slower, more spacious as we develop sensitivity to ourselves, and others.
We can see that “doing” and “not doing” are dual, equal practices.
When we honor ourselves and others for the highest good, the possibilities are infinite.
Source Credit garykabat.com Infinite Possibilities Newsletter